Conditional Reward
Have you ever experienced that your husband or someone else will give you a reward if you will do the favor that they are asking from you? This is about a request that cannot be accomplished overnight.
I think most of you here know that I have a weight gaining problem, after the pregnancy of my daughter. My hubby is very supportive of me, and he helps encourage me when I try to lose weight. I know he wants me to be happy. He bought some exercise machines for me. But you know the disadvantage of having these in your house, you bury them in the dust and stack thing on them, and you never have the energy to dig them out and use them; you see them everyday, and you have the habit of saying, I will do it later.
Then one day, I asked him, if it’s ok that I will enroll in YMCA. He paid for a family membership; because he wanted me to be happy and involved with other people too. I did lose weight but not enough for me to get back to my original goal, but I am getting closer.
Ten months ago, I was on vacation in the Philippines and returned on July 2006. I was there for three (3) months; I spent all of my time with my family. So, most of the time, I was with my baby, and I did the cooking for the family. And I didn’t hire a helper to watch my daughter. Then I had a thought, if I will hire someone, then I would have time for myself also.
When I came back, I became lazy especially in going to the gym. So my hubby is worried, because he sees me all the time on the computer. He wants me to go back again and have an active life. He knows I regretted that I didn’t hire someone to baby sit with my daughter, while I was in the Philippines.
Last night, he asked me to go back to the gym or else he will cancel the membership. He gave me a condition, and I was interested in what he said. By the way, he knows my heart is still in the Philippines. So, he said that if I will lose 20 lbs, he will send me anytime, and I will also decide when to come back. Sounds good huh?!
This morning, I went swimming and did the cardio in the afternoon. I arrived home, and there was hubby laughing with me about the conditional reward. He said I am not doing it for myself but for the reward.
32 Had something to say...:
Whew! I'm first ----> Sounds like your hubby love you unconditionally with a few conditions. Ha ha.... Have fun!
Lucil in Texas
He's right. It didn't work that you're doing it for yourself. So might as well do it for the reward. Let's see if doing it for your reward (trip to the Philippines) helps. Good luck.
p.s. ganyan din ako with my exercise equipment. the gym membership is in danger of not being "sulit".
Naku manay, tumpak ka dyan! Kapag nasa bahay, inaamag sa katatambak at di nagagamit! Heheheh
Sige at exercise na, Raq! Para makauwi ka na at magkita na tayo :)
Heheheh
Sabihin mo kay hubby, two-fold naman yan. For the vacation and for your health kamo hahahaha
Hi Raquel. I've been asking my husband to buy me the treadmill so I can exercise at home because I'm lazy to walk. I prepared to stay home thank walking out specially this time of the year its too cold. Aguy, ingon mana siya eat less 3 times a day and do some exercise at home even just 20-30 minutes. I try for a month. Remember I was 138lbs when we met. Now I'm 134lbs after I eat. I weigh myself in the morning before I eat I'm 130lbs. I'm happy I lost weight. I wanted to lost more at least 10 pounds before going home to the Philippines if god's will madayon me this summer. Its hard to go back our weight when were single because we already had a baby. If ever makauli me sa atoa this summer mag stay away nako sa soda didto.. then eat less rice.. mao man gyod na ang makadako ug cold water.. makadako sa pos-on.. I will try to buy the gallon of water instead sa bottle kay na grabe man ko mo-inom ug tubig.. sometimes more 3 bottles aday pa.. but hubby said, water is good in our body kono.. bitaw his right..
well, a little incentive doesn't hurt! baka magsisi siya sa reward niya.
keep it up Raquel, I admire your dedication to lose weight. Ako, hanggang salita na lang, wala sa gawa. LOL.
good luck sa bagong mission!
Im sure, kayang kaya mo yan.. (may reward eh.. hehehe)..
Eli
Hi Raquel! Wow! Go for it!!!! 20lbs is not that bad...challenge your hubby also that you'll give him a bonus by making it 40 lbs.hehe. C'mon, kayang kaya mo yan. I am getting lazy working out also, in our apartment complex we have a work out gym and swimming pool but I am just too lazy to do it...but I got a workout DVD at home that I love! It was fun, its has everything on. I got the gym ball also but its been sitting there for quite a while, I havent used it too. The same thing with my taebo with the punching bag. I just love the turbo jam workout though. You know what, you really encourage me to work out too. I wish my hubby would make a deal to me too hahaha. Sige na diha Raq, work out daun ug kusog, pakapini pod si Toney sa iyang gipangayo nimo, make it twice as much ( 40 lbs) hehehe. You go girl! You can do it! Take care. I am getting excited for you. Tell us your updates! God bless you all!
ok yan manay, dalawang ibon sa isang putok! go go go ;)
hi raquel! your hubby is such a sweetie for encouraging you and even giving you incentives if you lose those 20lbs. but i think you and i both know that it's not going to work if your doing it just for the trip back home.
losing weight takes a lot of motivation and willingness from within! you don't do it for anybody, you do it for yourself! hay, been there, done that! i too, as you know is struggling with my weight. alam mo, i swear the SBD works!!! matutuwa ka after two weeks kasi 8-10lbs na nawala sayo, or even more if you really follow it to the T. you might want to try it. i have the foodlist here. just give me your email add para i can send them to you :)
napahaba na. dieting and losing weight is one of my favorite topics, hehehe :)
go girl kaya mo yan!
mareng hala paningkamot jud aron makuha nimo ang reward hehhehe
asa ka pa ka sweet ba diay ni pareng toney.
Kiss ko sa akong palanggang gamateng diha.
@ LUCIL:
Hay ambot, wala nalang untay conditional, hahaha. Excited diay ko sa inyong pag uli, good luck and enjoy your vacation sa pinas.
Thanks Cil.
@ TANI:
Very funny nga eh, buti nalang very supportive etong asawa ko.
Dito kase sa america, halos mga babae na may anak na, they're getting fatter and fatter. Si hubby naman sabi nya, very proud daw sya kung ma maintain ko daw ang figure ko but he is NOT forcing naman.
Goodluck sa ating lahat!!! :)
@ SASHA:
She, pag maka-uwi ako magkita talaga tayo at iba mo pang friends na friend ko rin. Ikaw ang una kong i-meet, just email me your number ha para dun nalang natin pag=uusaan ang schedule ng pagkikita natin, hehehe.
Basta, I will try to lose more this year para maka uwi ako. Uuwi muna ako sa CDO then maybe after 2 months tsaka nalang tayo magkikita, ayos ba?
Please reply ha, I'm getting closer na kase sa goal ko eh, hahaha...:D
@ LANIE G:
Kaya mo yan, you're not fat at all Lanie, ayaw kabalaka oi. Hopefully maka uli karon summer, maayo pa mo dah cge lang bakasyon2x. Nah hala, good luck sa atong tanan, maayo unta mo niwang ta.
@ JO:
Hehehe, very funny, "magsisi sya". Sana nga Jo, hay gusto ko talagang maka uwi uli. Kulang pa yung 3 months ko last year, this time kukuha ako ng helper para makapag lakwatsa talaga at sulit ang bakasyon, hahaha.
I hope you will try too, sa umpisa lang ang mahirap. Pero pag may resulta ka ng makita, very challenging na eh.
@ MIMI:
Tanan nimo gi mention naa pod ako Mimi oi, pero magpa-ibabaw jud ang katapol, labi daghan lami pagkaon. Maong matapol pod ta mi kay kita ra man gud sa balay ug mingaw. Kakapoy ra mag exercise kung naa atong bana nag tan-aw tv ug nagdula dula sila sa atong anak, ug kita nag cging exercise. Agoy, nganong mag antos man ta oi, nah, tua undang exercise ug nag duwa2x apil sa mag-ama.
Wow nice diay didto sa inyong gipoy-an nga apartment complex kay naay gym of swimming pool pa jud. Gi take advantage unta to nimo. Mao to naka decide kog enrol sa Y kay mawala imong katapol kung daghan mo ga workout. M to F at 9am, ga aero jud ko Mi.
Wa diay koy puching bag oi! Hehehe...o cge mi kay ning taas na ko diri. Basta paniwang na ang topic, very interesting jud ba, hahaha.
@ RACKY:
Manay, eto lang ang reply ko sau ha, kumakain ka ba ng tuyo at anong klase? Bisaya term is bulad samin eh.
@ GRACITA:
Thank you Gracita, very supportive talaga. i-copy & paste ko nlang ang sinabi ko kay Tani ha? "Dito kase sa america, halos mga babae na may anak na, they're getting fatter and fatter. Si hubby naman sabi nya, very proud daw sya kung ma maintain ko daw ang figure ko but he is NOT forcing naman",
Oi, i-email mo yan Gracita, I am interested talaga...this is my email raqmitch@yahoo.com
@ ETHEL:
Thanks mare...hehehe, sweet jud morag tsokolit!
Basta yun na yun ha...sabi ni kumareng gamateng, pink kuno imong gwitz.
Wow! You are a hell of a lucky woman Raquel! Maybe I want to become his closest friend hehehe...
Although...I am afraid he might not give a damn for me losing a gram aye? muhahaha...
yun naman talga ang purpose ng reward to encourage someone to complete the needed task or objective. kasi if you really want to do it for your hubby, he dont need to encourage you by putting a reward :)
good luck!
i think napaka-supportive naman sa iyo ng hubby mo :) ang sweet-sweet naman niya.
as for your losing weight per se, kayang-kaya mo yan! good luck!
heheheh, bat napunta sa tuyo ang ibon ko Manay?
wag lang tuyong sirena at baka magkaroon ng tsunami :P
conditional reward, unconditional love from hubby... hehehe....
doesn't matter whatever the motivation is, as long as there's positive outcome.. :)
-intan-
wow! what a nice reward! hehehe. im sure you'll burn all those calories in no time! hehe. ^_^ good luck raq! ^_^
how sweet! some conditions from unconditional love. go for it - you only need a starting point, afterwards it will be a breeze. and the condition he gave is sooo attractive. good luck, dear!
Hi Raquel, good luck! kayang kaya mo iyan.
haha, look who's talking! ako rin sobrang tamad diyan sa exercise na iyan. Nagagawa ko lang iyan kapag andito si hubby at nagja-jogging kami.
ok iyan, may reward ka pa from your hub. sweet naman niya. *wink*
What a way to challenge you! Your husband is quite clever ;) ! Go for it Raquel, if you want that palne ticket am sure you will do everything to be on of of it ! Wow, that's a great unlimited offer pa.
Ay! salamat makakoment na jud ko. The last I was her dili mo-open.
WTG Raq, I admire your determination to lose weight lalo na ngayon na may reward...Thanks to Toney!
Me...I want to lose weight really badly but I'm leaning on to something else. I prefer to have a baby first and then saka na yan! lol
oks ang motivation!
ako din on diet para makalabas na ako sa lungga ko heheh
Sometimes incentives can work. They do not work with me though - despite Sofia's best efforts.
Since I am not motivated by incentives, offering others incentives makes little sense to me. I know it can work, but I think people should do somethign because they want to do it, not because they are tricked into doing it.
Hoep you get to lose your weight and go to the Philippines too.
oopppss.late na pala ako,sorry Raq :)
getting closer ka na,yay!dahil sa sweet na suhol ni hubby,sana sabihan din ako ni hubby nyan,para makagimik uli sa pinas,err,sobra na ako,mananahimik muna ako at saka na ang byahe.
good luck Raq!paseksi ka na nang husto for your own sake and for the sake of your one in a million hubby :)
Good luck din sa EB nyo ni Sash! :)
losing weight is already a reward. going to philippines is a plus
I am also struggling now to lose weight so that I will look gorgeous on summer. Coz it's time to wear less clothing and also i have the guts to go around half naked as before.
@ TOTO:
Hahaha, thanks Toto. I'm just a lucky girl!
@ ISKOO:
Thank you Iskoo, sana I will reach my goal soon.
@ CESS:
Sana, sana nga...may continuation pa to Cess, balik ka sa Wednesday ha.
@ RACKY:
Hehehe, basta malalaman mo rin yan. Meron na akong email sayo manay at may message din ako dun sa tagboard mo.
@ INTAN:
Yeah, very funny huh? I think I will be motivated this time because of the reward, hahaha.
@ CHIKAI:
I dunno Cherry, thanks for the support.
@ SEXY MOM:
Wow, what a very sweet and inspiring message from you Dine. I think I will be more motivated because of the reward.
Thank you Dine, I appreciate your support.
@ NONA:
Thanks Nona at good luck sa ating lahat, hay weight gaining is a major problem of women talaga.
@ HAZE:
Yes Haze, clever talaga, alam nya na gusto ko talagang uuwi, ayun ginawang prize ang pagpapayat, hahaha.
Lately, I've been lazy na eh.
@ AGRING:
Aside from that, you can't open my page kung http:// alone, kilangan may www talaga Agring, salamat at nakarating ka rin.
Oi, about baby making, yan nakapag weak sakin dahil we are still waiting pero hanggang ngayon wala pa rin eh. Gusto ko na talaga may kapatid na si Maria,
Good luck in making baby Agring.
@ MOUSEY:
Thanks Mousey...kahit sang sulok kakasya ka mousey.
@ RICHARD:
I think this incentives is great. I just went to the Philippines last year and stayed there for 3 months. And now for this condition, I think I'm gonna make it, I really wanted to go back there. By the way, I was 172lbs in Jan 2006 and the current weight is 145lbs. I still have 20lbs to work for.
Thanks Richard!
@ GHEE:
Ok lang Ghee ah.
Getting closer nga pero di naman halata na nabawasan kase mataba pa rin tingnan, hehehe.
Hahaha, anong 1 million hubby. Sana wala nalang condition, sana i-advance nalang nya ang reward.
Ghee, atin2x lang to ha nakakahiya eh, ano bang EB? Ilang beses ko na yang narinig sa mga blog nyo ni Sasha, hahaha.
@ CRUISE:
Hehehe, you are right cruise. Thanks!
@ CHASE:
Hahaha, boing ka talaga. Thanks!!!
for a second there, i thought you were talking about bribery. hehe.
sweet naman ni hubby mo that he's buying you all these equipments & gym memberships to make you happy. hehe.
if i were in your shoes, and had the same reward looming before me if i lost weight, then i would be exercising my butt of too. hehe.
which reminds me, i really should start losing the weight i gained during the holidays. haha.
hope you have a great weekend!
wow!!that's so nice of your hubby.hey..i'm fat too...my dad used to buy me food supplements which tasted so yucky.he even paid to enrol me on those weight loss program but nothing seems to work.maybe because i wasn't that really determined.so in the end i tried yoga.it kept me fit in health but the shape of my body didn't really changed..sigh...but yoga is good..maybe you can give it a try.
@ LAUREEN:
Ay ganyan talaga sya, paminsan minsan nga nasabi ko, ano kaya ang kapalit noh, hehehe.
Go, go girl, para marami na tayo, :D
@ ADAYDREAMER:
Thanks dreamer, yes he is.
I do agree with you that the shape of the body don't change especially me I already have a baby.
Problema naman pag nasa pinas ang sarap kumain, lalo pag kumpleto ang family. Baka bumalik yung pinaghirapang bawasin. Ako kasi hindi pa pumayat everytime na nagbabakasyon.
Pero kaya mo yan..determination lang at self discipline.
Ay ewan ko lang, malapit na akong mag surrender. We are planning to get pregnant din parang masasayang din ang pinaghirapan.
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